Loneliness
My first fall and winter in Vermont were heavy with dark, gray loneliness. We had left a full life and rich community in Tennessee and...
Relational Repairs
I have a confession. Once I yelled at my sister. I probably have yelled at her many times, over the course of growing up together, but...
Pay Attention
Last summer my middle daughter got a tiny little cut on her heel while she was playing outside. It was more of a prick than a cut, and...
Too Much
A long time ago, in a state far away, I was a young graduate student learning to be a therapist. I knew a lot of therapists, and I had...
For the Toolbox
The last week and a half or so haven’t been all that great. It hasn’t been terrible, and there have been some really good moments. But...
The Good Struggle
I am one of those parents who really, really hates to hear their babies cry. It triggers some sort of physical alarm in me, and I feel...
People Aren't Math
I read a lot of birthing/baby/parenting books when I was pregnant with my first child. My favorite book had a very specific plan, and...
Tough and Tender
Years ago I watched my sister run the Chicago marathon. It was October, but it was ridiculously, dangerously hot. It was so hot that...
What Gets Measured
One of my clients told me about an app that monitors the time you spend on your phone. She is 17 years old and has set a goal for the...
YOU
I have the gift of knowing some very remarkable women. Consider the women in my immediate family. My mom is exceptionally grounded,...
