Perspective
When I was in college I liked a boy who like a friend of mine. It felt catastrophic. I was convinced that my friend would marry this...
Relational Repairs
I have a confession. Once I yelled at my sister. I probably have yelled at her many times, over the course of growing up together, but...
Expectations
When I was younger I had a lot of ideas about what it would be like to be a grown up. I imagined what marriage would be like, what my...
Pay Attention
Last summer my middle daughter got a tiny little cut on her heel while she was playing outside. It was more of a prick than a cut, and...
Too Much
A long time ago, in a state far away, I was a young graduate student learning to be a therapist. I knew a lot of therapists, and I had...
For the Toolbox
The last week and a half or so haven’t been all that great. It hasn’t been terrible, and there have been some really good moments. But...
The Good Struggle
I am one of those parents who really, really hates to hear their babies cry. It triggers some sort of physical alarm in me, and I feel...
People Aren't Math
I read a lot of birthing/baby/parenting books when I was pregnant with my first child. My favorite book had a very specific plan, and...
Tough and Tender
Years ago I watched my sister run the Chicago marathon. It was October, but it was ridiculously, dangerously hot. It was so hot that...
Permission
A few weeks ago I was debating whether or not to attend a social gathering. I had a long list of reasons why I wanted to go and reasons...
